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Christmas 2008

We had a wonderful Christmas this year. It was full of family get-togethers, gifting, and TONS OF SNOW. We could have done without so much of the snow though, my back is killing me! All in all though, it was pretty nice to see everyone again and have them all over for another amazing grilled-ham Christmas dinner. All of the photo highlights are posted, of course, so you can click on the thumbnail to take a look. Kevin got some great games for the Wii and PS3, so he’s (we’re) bust playing all of those every chance we get. Sandy’s loving her new GPS–the first one she’s ever had– and I’m amazed at how simple they really are to use. I was expecting them to require some sort of elaborate antenna hookup in the car, or at least a monthly subscription to access the satellite system, but no, it’s really that simple. A one-time purchase and that’s it. The antenna is built-in and works quite well, receiving contant updates every second or two, telling her how fast she’s going, exactly when to turn, and even displaying the little car icon of her choosing and selecting the voice of her choosing! It was very amusing to hear “Elfred” the Christmas Elf give her directions. His mid-trip commentary is quite entertaining.

Update: 12/30/08 – I just finished posting all of our Christmas and New Years photos for 2008! There’s nearly 200 photos in all, so there’s plenty to sift through! Take a look. Highlights include: Christmas Eve at Beth & Tom’s, Christmas Day at Home, and Our Lil New Year’s Eve Celebration at Home with Tyler, Jayson’s son, who spent about a week with us over the holiday break. The photos are sorted chronologically, so they start a few weeks before Christmas when we put up and decorated our tree, and end with our New Year’s Eve celebration and Ty and Kev opening their presents from Jay & Shell. Enjoy!

Knee Surgery and Harmony Agony

Well, my Knee Surgery is tomorrow. I’m a little nervous, but I’m glad the ordeal will finally be over and I will hopefully soon be able to walk normally, without all the pain. The surgery seems fairly common, and I (and my doctor) don’t foresee any complications, and I should be able to go home the same day.  Within a week I’m supposed to be able to put full weight back on it again, but Physical Therapy will have to continue beyond that.

I’ve been working on perfecting my new Harmony 720 Remote. I got it pretty cheap in the bargain bin at Walmart recently. Sheesh, Logitech’s software really sucks major booty though! Even with the latest version you still can’t re-order your devices the way you want. I’ve had an older Harmony model for a couple years now, and the software has improved a little, but it’s still very hard to use, and not very user-friendly.  Asking online only results in everyone saying that the Harmony remotes are activity-based, and the Device list rearranges itself based on whatever activity you choose. Arrrrrgh. It’s so customizable…yet missing this one seemingly simple feature that I crave… Very frustrating. My setup is too unique to use the Activities, which requires you to ALWAYS use the remote (for powering on and off everything, etc.) and it remembers the state every device is in at all times.  But some of us in the house turn the power of things on and off on the devices themselves once in awhile, and others use the remote most of the time, so it renders the device status memory useless. I love using just the devices with my customized buttons, and it works great, the only little thing I still want is just to be able to re-order the devices so my most-used ones are on the first page. I’m up to 11 devices. Anyone else got a Harmony?

Update on Everything

Sorry it’s been so long between posts.  I’ve been very busy with a lot of things lately, so here’s what I’ve been up to:  iPod.  I picked up an iPod recently, on the recommendation of a few friends, and I can’t put the darned thing down! I had no idea it could be so addictive–as so accessorizable–if that’s even a word… You can get pretty much any accessory for it imaginable, from simple docks you just drop it into to full-blown high-end stereo systems it integrates into!  No, I didn’t go THAT far, but I did pick up a couple inexpensive “cube-like” clock/radios with iPod docks on them–one for home and one for my desk at work.  It just makes it so simple–just drop it into the slot and it plays all my music, my movies, my photos… I just saw a really cool dock at Sam’s Club today that I am considering now.  It looks just like a portable DVD player with a 7″ LCD display, except it has an iPod-sized cutout in the lower half…just drop the iPod in and you have a portable media player with a decent-sized 7″ display!  I might just have to pick that one up.  And get this–just for the heck of it I decided to see if it could handle syncing my entire collection of Digital Camera images–over 30,000 photos and growing.  It took several hours, but it worked just fine! I was amazed.  They’re compressed of course–it automatically reduces them to a comfortable iPod-compatible size–but they still look really decent when I run them as a slideshow with the iPod connected to our 1080p television!

Besides all the iPodding lately, a lot more of my spare time has also been eaten up by the handling my dad’s estate.  I was officially appointed the Personal Representative last week, so I’m the lucky one that gets to handle every aspect of finalizing all the details, selling assets, and wrapping things up completely.  At least there’s a lawyer involved to keep everything striaght and on-track.  I can use him when needed, but not without a price of course, so I’m doing as much of it as I can without his assistance, due to our very limited funds.  This week I put an ad in the paper to sell my dad’s van, and we’re actually getting a lot of calls about it, so hopefully that part of it will come to a close very soon.

Lastly, I have been having a lot of pain in my left knee over the past few months. Apparently it is the long-term effects of falling on a patch of ice in front of our house in the middle of last winter. I felt better a few weeks after the fall, so I assumed it would be ok.  It was a little sore over the months since, but lately it has become much more painful, and walking up or down stairs in almost impossible.  I had an MRI done a couple weeks ago, and they found a tear in the center of my knee.  I’m going to see a specialist on Monday to see what has to be done next.

That’s about it I think.  Oh, except for an excellent Audiobook I’m almost finished listening to (reading?) right now–yes, as I type this.  It’s called “The Last Lecture” by Randy Pausch.  It was mentioned by Leo on the TWiT podcast recently.  It about a Virtual Reality professor at Carnegy-Mellon.  He found out he had cancer and only a few months to live, so he gave his last lecture.  The lecture itself is all over YouTube, you should definitely check it out.  The book isn’t the actual lecture, but more like his entire life story, up to and including everything about the lecture.  Randy Pausch just passed away a couple weeks ago.  Very sad story, but awesome reading and there’s a lot you can learn from him.  Take a look:

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Black Knight is Back!

Black Knight is a classic Williams pinball machine. Black Knight and I go way back. I met him years ago at a place called Funway Freeway in Kenosha. It was an awesome arcade, back when arcades were more than just money making machines out to get your quarters. Back when you could actually learn and win a game, earn free games, and heck… even SELL a bunch of racked up credits to some sucker who wasn’t good enough at the game to earn them himself…YET.

I mastered Black Knight in the arcade. For months and months I learned the moves, all the nudges, perfect shots and combos, everything I needed to come in early, pop in a quarter, and play all day on it. It was a blast, and it paid off for me. Pinball Wizard wasn’t just a song, it was my life. And Hans was that poor sucker in the first paragraph who bought most of my credits. Yeah, some days I even turned a PROFIT!

A few years later, after Black Knight was eventually retired from the arcade and replaced with some new money-gobbling machine–when my master skills were waning, Bob Jensen gets a Black Knight machine for his restaurant, Pizza Popper. Not long afterward, it was offered for sale. I grabbed it of course, I couldn’t resist. It was $300 of money well spent, in my opinion. Getting it into my parent’s house and up to my bedroom must have been an interesting project, but I don’t really remember any of that. All I remember is playing it endlessly, cleaning it, and just looking at it. I had my dream machine, right there in my room.

Eventually it broke down though, to a point where I couldn’t fix it. I think it was a circuit board that failed, if I remember correctly. I got rid of it after that, and I don’t really remember who took it off my hands, if it was Hans or someone else. But Black Knight had provided a lot of the glue that brought Hans and I together back in the day, so there’s always been that special something in it.

Since then I had only my memories of it. Up until recently, when we got our Wii. Just after buying it we wanted to try out a few games on it, so we went to Family Video to rent some. I noticed a game titled “Williams Pinball Classics” so i picked it up. I flipped it over and looked at the 10 pinball machines that it contained. There it was. Black Knight was back. I doubted it was any good, so I thought renting it would be a pretty safe bet, since it’s much cheaper than shelling out the price of the full game. I really didn’t expect much, but thought it would be funny to see how close it was to the real thing.

Not knowing much anything about the Wii yet, we had to figure out the goofy nun-chuck connection thingie.. (why the heck does the nun-chuck use a WIRE, when the controllers are wireless?!?!) Who’s the brainiac that came up with that one? Fire him and hire someone who can develop a wireless nun-chuck! Duh. Anyway, we put the disc in and I immediatety searched the arcade and found no Black Knight. Silly thing was hiding up on the second floor! I quickly inserted my virtual quarter and figured out how to start a game and flip.

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Whoa. I was able to earn almost one million (you get a free game at one million) on my first game. I got just over 800,000 points, and by golly my SHOTS were there!!! Just a little more practice and I could get this down just like the real thing! It’s really quite well done for a virtual pinball machine! The timing, physics, and the who package is just amazingly accurate. There are a few sound issues I can hear and a couple mechanical differences, but I doubt many others beside Hans and myself would ever even notice. You can even nudge (in different directions!) and tilt, as well as play from several different camera angles! How they did it I have no idea, but I’m sure the original designers and/or some diehard players had a lot of input.

Fast forward a few weeks to today…

Jay was here from Arizona just after we got our Wii and we were in the middle of this rental.. Jay knows Black Knight well, having played it in my room quite a bit himself. Now my goal is to get him off of my high score board. The hard way. Tonight I got one step closer to my goal. It shouldn’t be long. I was able to “roll” the REAL Black Knight pretty easily ‘way back when’. Just a little more timeis all I need… you’ll see…Click on the thumbnail to see tonight’s high score.

Thank you!

Thank you everyone who attended the visitations and the funeral.  It was great to see everyone again, but it’s so sad that it takes something so tragic to get everyone together.

Thanks to everyone who sent flowers, gave cards, donations, and helped plan things.

A special thanks to Bruch Funeral Home.  Kris did such an awesome job of just taking care of every little detail so well, and making us feel so comfortable, it just made the whole ordeal so much less stressful than I thought it was going to be.

Thanks to Casa Capri for an excellent luncheon after the funeral, and for everyone who attended the luncheon.  Again, it was great to see you all!

Lastly, I’d like to thank the U.S. Navy for providing such a formal, respectful, and memorable graveside service for my father.  I’m sure he got quite a kick out of it, and it’s something we will certainly never forget.

Dad’s Funeral Sermon

Funeral for Harold Trottier
6/12/08 ““ First United Methodist Church
Rev. Ned Hintzman

Note: The recording may have started just after the service did, so a small portion of the pastor’s words are probably missing. This was my best effort to transcribe the service.

God gives us the capacity to mix our losses with our celebrations, our sadness with our joy, and our grief and our comfort. You see, the loss we feel is the gain we have been given. Think about that. The loss you feel today is because of the gain you have been given. Harold was a good and simple man. Life was not complicated for him. Surround him with his family on Christmas at his house and he was happy. Maybe he had on his red sweats and his Santa’s hat, and if he did, he was in his glory. Family cookouts, where somebody else did the cooking, was a good thing. He was doing well then. Give him a good steak along with his dog Tiny Toy in his arms or Friday night fish fry, and he was satisfied.

He was a good father to all you children, and his children’s spouses. To you, Jimmy and your wife Sandy, to Clayton and Clifford, and daughters Karen and Penny and husband Robert, and Loretta and Elizabeth and husband Tom. There are lots of good memories, of watching scary movies on the Sci-Fi station. There was that sense of humor that, to my understanding, at times was boundless (laughs). You never knew where it was going. And there was the “Bozzo” image that sticks in your mind. The trips to the family reunions during the summer in the Chevy station wagon, a loving grandpa to twelve grandchildren and Grandpa T. to seventeen great grandchildren. The scooter rides. And his dog Tiny Toy. Watching gangster movies, and sleeping over, and rummaging, just having a good time.

And not to be forgotten this morning are those 42 years that he and Donna were married. Her seemingly untimely death in 1992 ended a lot of travel plans with that barely two-year-old van that had hopes and plans written all over it. The van that remains, even though it doesn’t run. But he couldn’t have it be sold, because he couldn’t part with it.

Harold was in the Naval Reserves for five years and will be honored for that service when we are at Sunset Ridge. He was employed for over forty years at American Motors, and in recent years again, just, I guess I need to say it again, he loved that Sci-Fi channel. All the mysterious and scary movies that were on there. The picture boards””I always like looking at picture boards. Picture boards full of those pictures that, for you, bring back all those memories, all those good times, all those hopeful times, all that time that you lived with him, and he knew and loved you.

The bulletin cover today reflects the hope of his fate. In my Father’s house there are many dwellings, many rooms that Jesus has gone ahead to prepare. One for Harold, and one that Donna’s already taken care of. He’s gone home to be with his gracious and loving God, to be with Donna and the rest of those who have gone before him.

These words seem appropriate today:

God looked around his garden and he found an empty place.
He then looked down upon this earth and saw your tired face.
He put his arm around you and lifted you to rest.
God’s garden must be beautiful, he always takes the best.
He knew that you were suffering; he knew that you were in pain,
He knew that you would never get well ever again.
He saw that the road was getting rough and the hills were hard to climb.
So he closed your weary eyelids and whispered “peace be thine”.
It broke our hearts to lose you, but you didn’t go alone,
For part of us went with you, the day God called you home.

The joy of our fate is that when this life in the world can no longer be, God has another place prepared for us. A place where peace passes all understanding and living is always full and we share that hope not only for those who have died, but for us, as we continue into our lives. And I pray today that each one of us may live each day in the gracious compassion of God’s love. I pray that we might live with the assurance that God gives us, knowing that our lives will be filled with faith, and fill with the trust in God that is necessary, no matter what comes our way, no matter what we need, believing and knowing that God will be with us. This great gift of life. May you go forth today as people ready to live and ready to die knowing that either way, you are the Lord’s. Amen.

{Hymn: How Great Thou Art}

Go in peace. And may the peace, and the love, and the blessing of God Almighty, go with you, and be with you, now and always. In the name of the Father, the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.

Funeral Services for Dad

Here are the funeral arrangements for my dad, Harold L. Trottier.  If you would like to visit his online memorial book or read his obituary, please click here.

Visitation
Wednesday, June 11th, 2008
5:00 pm – 7:00 pm
Bruch Funeral Home
3503 Roosevelt Rd
Kenosha, WI 53142
(262) 652-8298

Church Services
Thursday, June 12th, 2008
10:00 am – 11:00 am Visitation
11:00 am Funeral Service
First United Methodist Church
919 60th Street
Kenosha, WI 53140

Interment will follow the church services at:

Sunset Ridge Memorial Park
6211 38th St
Kenosha, WI 53144
(262) 652-7488

Dad’s Gone

My father, Harold (Bozzo) Trottier, passed away this morning at Kenosha Memorial Hospital. He was 77 years old. He was born in 1931, and lived a good life. He raised a family of 7 children–A fine legacy to carry on his name–and we will all miss him greatly. I will post more as we learn more and as time permits. Tomorrow the details of the funeral and visitation will be finalized, but at this point we have set Wednesday evening for the visitation, with the funeral to be held on Thursday.

In memory, I’d like to re-post a portion of the sermon that Reverend Charles King gave when my mother passed away:

“This album of memories will contain a section for her husband, and their children, and the children of those children. Donna and Harold went to school together here in Kenosha and when the family moved to Iowa, Harold managed to cross Wisconsin to continue to see Donna. He was considered by Donna’s sisters, “Almost a part of the family.” But they had to wait until Donna was eighteen and had graduated from high school before they could get married, and so they did.

Obviously Donna loved her family, and I know that you who are here can fill in the blanks with example after example of her love and forgiveness and patience and the cheer that she radiated and which was kind of contagious. You are the ones who can share with each other sentences that start out: “Do you remember the time we. . .” I grew up in a very small family and when I was a child that was fine–one sister was even too much at times. But when I witness the support that larger families provide one another and all the interaction that takes place, I know that I missed something–like traditions at Easter and the entire family around to decorate the Christmas tree, and waiting until midnight and the start of Christmas to open presents. So there will be a large number of pages in this family section.”

There is much more to that sermon, so if you’d like to read it in its entirety, just click here.

Dad’s Fall

My dad had another fall yesterday. Well, either a fall or a collapse, we’re not real sure at this point. I was on a computer job when I got a call on my cell phone from my brother. He said my dad was just taken to the hospital by ambulance. He had fallen to the floor while walking toward the front door. My brother heard the loud thump and ran downstairs and found him. He was initially unresponsive, so Clayton called 911. At some point he was a little bit conscious, apparently, but my brother said he was talking incoherently, and he couldn’t understand anything he was saying.

I called the hospital to get hold of Sandy, and I headed to the hospital shortly after that. When I got there he was still in the E.R., sedated, but woke up a few times while in the emergency room. The nurse asked him who I was and he didn’t know the first couple times. As the medication wore off and he came around more, he evenually recognized Sandy and I as who we were, which was a great relief.

They did a CT scan and at this point they say he may have had some “mini strokes” in the past and that this could have ongoing for some time, based on the look of the scan. This explains a lot, since Sandy and I have been concerned lately about his forgetfulness and some loss of memory we’ve noticed in him, as well as more and more weakness. He just doesn’t have much energy at all lately, and if he’s not forced to get up, get dressed and out of bed, he’ll just lay there all day without getting up at all.

They also tried to do a lumbar puncture on him, but were unable to get the needle in, so they gave up. The doctor said it was “like a rock” and they couldn’t get the needle in, so they gave up. They wanted to see if he might have menengitis, but they ended up just giving him the antibiotics for it just in case he had it anyway. He has been admitted, and he’ll be spending a few days in the hospital at the least. He has been getting steadily weaker and weaker over the past several weeks, and very unsteady on his feet. He wasn’t supposed to be walking in the house without someone helping him, so we don’t know why he was walking around without help.

Sandy had recently been calling visiting nurses and trying to get an aide to come in for a few hours a day a few days a week in the mornings to get him washed up, dressed, and fed and maybe even a little exercise. We found a good aide with a lot of experience the other day, and we had her scheduled to start next Monday. Unfortunately that’ll probably have to wait now. At this point we’re not even sure what’s going to happen after the hospital stay. It’s just wait and see at this point.

A hard lesson for an 8-year-old

Kevin had a short day at school Friday and no after-school program, so we decided to go to the museum and the park, two of his favorite places.  The museum was nice, but we went a bit soon since last time, so not much had changed.  They change the second-floor collections often, but those were still mostly the same things we saw last time.  This isn’t exactly a bad thing, it just means we get to spend more time looking at details, reading more about the things we see, and basically learning more.  We took in a lot of the civil war paintings this time–something we largely overlooked in the past””and also learned more about native Americans, their tools and weapons, and saw some huge (live!) giant millipedes from Africa.  Kevin even found some “hidden” cabinets that you can open to reveal lots of artifacts he had never seen before.

Before we left, we visited the gift shop as we always do.  Kevin still loves getting a plaster dinosaur egg now and then and spending hours excavating the egg with the small pick and brush included with it.  Each eggs holds a hand-painted ceramic dinosaur.  He has a collection of 5 of the dinosaurs now.  Since the first one, we have reminded him many times that they are fragile, but they look so much like just another dinosaur toy that he plays with them.  I’ve already had to repair 3 of them, supergluing legs and tails that have broken off.  Anyway, along with the dinosaur egg he also wanted one of those wooden animals with the spring-loaded thumb-button underneath them.  They’re assembled with strings attached to the spring, so when you push the button underneath up the string loosen and the animal appears to collapse, or “dance” with repeated pushing and releasing of the spring.

After the museum we went to the park for a short time and then went home.  On the ride home Kevin said “Dad, my toy broke!”.  I checked it when we got home and sure enough a string had broken and one whole leg had fallen off””4 pieces in all””leaving him with a 3-legged animal.  I couldn’t repair it myself after trying several times last night, so I left it for Sandy to try to fix.  This morning he played with his 3-legged animal some more and the head fell off.  He refuses to let me throw it away though, wanting to wait to see if Sandy can fix it for him.  And so it waits.

This morning he spent over 4 hours with his latest one and he was very excited to finish it.  We washed the remaining plaster powder from it and he was all grins.  Shortly after this he was dancing around in the dining room with it when he said “ooopsie!” and it hit the floor with a crunch.  The tail and one leg had broken off and flew across the floor.  He found the leg and it looks like another clean break, so I could probably repair it easily.  But he’s still searching for the tail.  Without the tail it’s pretty pointless to repair it at all.  He’s still searching the area, and neither of us can figure out where the heck it could have went that we can’t find.  He’s searching for it right now, refusing to give up.  So basically, all of his little treasures from this weekend were a total loss.  He’s pretty sad right now, but still searching.

Update:  It’s about 45 minutes after writing that last paragraph and Kevin has found the tail!  Using superglue I have performed emergency dinosaur surgery, reattaching his tail and leg.  He is resting well now, and we expect a full recovery.  Whew.  I guess it wasn’t a total loss after all.  We’ll see how he holds up after recovery.  Kevin is now relieved, glad to have one trinket intact, and I think he might even be willing to give up on the three-legged headless spring-loaded animal now and put him to rest.  We’ll see.

In Memory of Donna J. Trottier

Today is the anniversary of my mother’s birthday. She passed away in 1992, but her memory will always live on in our hearts. In honor of her I’m re-posting the sermon by Reverend Charles King, written for her funeral service:

Donna J. Trottier
by Reverend Charles King
First United Methodist Church, Kenosha, Wisconsin
March 5th, 1992

Yesterday my wife and I went out for lunch and, as usual, we discussed what we had done that morning and what we planned to do in the afternoon. I mentioned to Nancy that I had spent time at the Trottier home talking about Donna and this service. Then my wife asked, “Do you have a theme or an idea for your message tomorrow?” And I said, “Not yet. In fact there is so much to share I’m not sure right now what I’ll say.” Later in the afternoon an idea came to me. Donna was a great collector and compiler. She put together many scrap books and photo albums. In fact she made albums for all the family members, and wanted to make sure there were pictures for every occasion. And it occurred to me that what I had on paper and in my head was a series of pages from a scrapbook of her life. So let’s open that book now and talk about what is there:

On my first page are memories of Donna and her sisters–growing up both in Kenosha and in Iowa. Five girls in one house. Just saying that can lead one’s mind off in all sorts of directions–the teasing that must have gone on; arguments; discussions; sharing of belongings. The hours that they spent playing with paper dolls; listening to the radio–not so much music like teenagers today, but the dramas–Inner Sanctum, the Shadow, and so on; and can you visualize a room whose walls were entirely covered with pictures of movie stars? Her’s was. And of course there were responsibilities around the house. As a teenager Donna hated to cook and so she traded off with one of her sisters–“I’ll do your ironing if you’ll take over my cooking assignments.” All those experiences created a real closeness which has continued through phone calls, visits, and a regular Round Robin Letter among the sisters.

Another section of the scrapbook would include travel photos. In childhood there were trips–both on foot and on bicycle–out to Petrifying Springs Park; trips to pick apples and strawberries; later as the family scattered there were yearly trips to the family reunion and, in one of those facts that causes a lump in the throat–an unfulfilled plan–she had her airline ticket for an April 23rd trip to see Charlene and Mary Ann in California. And the recent purchase of the van by Harold and Donna opened up all sorts of travel possibilities for them. That usual sparkle in Donna’s eyes was especially brilliant some months ago as she told me about the new van and some of their plans for its use. I also heard sadness and regret in her voice last week as I stood at her bedside in the intensive care unit and listened as she spoke of illness this winter which had kept her home more than she wished, now that they did have the van available to use.

Do we prepare a page in which we address Donna’s physical weaknesses? I think so. Even as a child her health was often precarious and knowing the handicaps which she overcame makes her life and witness–her spirit–even more remarkable. A word that came to mind this morning was”courage.” I wondered what I might have collected in my files on the subject of courage and found an article bemoaning the absence of heroes in society today. There are heroes around, but most are nameless. And then the author proceeds to describe who are the courageous: “That person who, in spite bitter disappointments, still praises God as the Giver of all good gifts. All those who stand by promises and commitments made in good faith, who remain loyal to friends, who are truthful in conversation, who are alert to opportunities for helping others–especially the small and the weak.” According to those criteria, Donna was a courageous hero. And I think she was, don’t you?

This album of memories will contain a section for her husband, and their children, and the children of those children. Donna and Harold went to school together here in Kenosha and when the family moved to Iowa, Harold managed to cross Wisconsin to continue to see Donna. He was considered by Donna’s sisters, “Almost a part of the family.” But they had to wait until Donna was eighteen and had graduated from high school before they could get married, and so they did.

Obviously Donna loved her family, and I know that you who are here can fill in the blanks with example after example of her love and forgiveness and patience and the cheer that she radiated and which was kind of contagious. You are the ones who can share with each other sentences that start out: “Do you remember the time we. . .” I grew up in a very small family and when I was a child that was fine–one sister was even too much at times. But when I witness the support that larger families provide one another and all the interaction that takes place, I know that I missed something–like traditions at Easter and the entire family around to decorate the Christmas tree, and waiting until midnight and the start of Christmas to open presents. So there will be a large number of pages in this family section.

Should the next page be titled “hobbies”? I’m not sure. I want to mention that Donna was a collector–maybe even a pack rat as one of her children put it. There is her collection of angels, plates, and bells. The many books she read. And there is evidence all around of her work with plastic canvas. She was skilled at crocheting, but the arthritis eventually put an end to that. How many of you here have received one or more gifts “Made with tender loving care by Donna Trottier”? What I have is her gift to me and Nancy at the time of our marriage. And I used to have but have given away the little squeeze boxes with candy inside. Now can you imagine making favors for all the children who would show up at family reunions?””~year after year?-­Donna did that!

Let’s include one more section in this album, one in which we highlight her Christian faith and life. At the funeral home on Monday Harold handed me this key and key chain. As I looked at it, my face wrinkled up. It is Donna’s key to the chair lift here at church. And it is attached to a plastic holder which says, “I Love Jesus.” She did. We started Saturday evening services here in the fall of 1990 as an experiment. We didn’t know if many would attend; well they did, and do. Donna was able to get out to these late afternoon services, and I remember the statement that Pastor Hintzman made one day. “Even if Donna were the only one attending these Saturday services, we’d have them for her.”

And when she was unable to attend, she still participated because she listened to the services on cassette tape–singing along with the congregation as they sang, from her own hymnal–a hymnal, incidentally which I discovered had bookmarks noting three hymns: “He Touched Me,” “He Lives,” and “Because He Lives.” There is another entire message possible in an examination of the words in those three hymns and matching the lyrics with the life and faith of Donna.

Yes, Donna loved her church and her Lord and the Lord loved her! Via cassette she listened to gospel music as well as to the Bible itself. Years ago she was active as a kindergarten Sunday school teacher and I understand the teaching went on at home, for she was someone that her children could turn to in trying and difficult times. Her children could say something to her and know that it would be held in confidence; they knew that their ides would be heard and respected.

At the end of the month I will be preaching a Lenten sermon about ageing. I started my reading on this subject at the beginning of the week. Always in the back of my mind was Donna’s death and this service, so several times that which I was reading got put aside for possible use this afternoon. I want to share three of those things which spoke to me, in hopes that you, too, will find help and strength in these words for this time of grief.

The first is a single sentence: “No one should die before his life is over.” There are people walking around who are merely existing; something in them died long ago. Now often an illness or accident will create that condition–death before actual death. But we gather today to celebrate the life of one who, even from a wheel chair or hospital bed, expressed life with all its joy and excitement.

Next is a statement made by the Catholic priest and writer Henri Nouwen at the time of his fiftieth birthday: “Within a few years I will no longer be on this earth. The thought of this does not frighten me but fills me with a quiet peace. I am a small part of life, a human being in the midst of thousands of other human beings.

It is good to be young, to grow old and to die. . .God became flesh to share with us in the simple living and dying, and thus made it good. I can feel today that it is good to be. . .What counts are not the unique accomplishments in life that make me different from others, but the basic experiences of sadness and joy, pain and healing, which make me part of humanity. The time is indeed growing short for me, but the knowledge sets me free. Mourning and joy can now both deepen my quiet desire for the day when I realize that the many kisses and embraces I received today were simple incarnations of the eternal embrace of the Lord himself.”

And the final thing I saved out from my reading was this passage from a devotional booklet: “[Al suggestion for coping with growing older is to acquire or possess a meaningful faith. . .We need the faith of the psalmist who testified in Psalm 71 to the strength and help God gave him in his youth and who knew that even as the years went by he never would be alone because God would be with him. Yes, the older we become the more we need to hear and take to heart the words of Helen Keller: “˜A simple childlike faith in a Divine Friend solves all the problems that come to us.. .Difficulties meet us at every turn. They are the accompaniment of life. . .The surest way to meet them is to assume that we have a friend who slumbers not, nor sleeps, and who watches over us and guides us–if we but let that happen.'”

Donna had such a friend, and so it is in confidence that we commend her now to that friend in heaven–to the eternal embrace of the Lord himself.

Our day at Six Flags Great America

We spent the day at Six Flags Great America Wednesday (8/25/04). We had the day planned a couple weeks in advance, and got a good deal on the tickets, so Sandy, Kevin and I went with my sister Beth and her daughters Brianna and Ashley. The six of us had a great time. I printed all the park info beforehand (ride height requirements, etc.) and even printed the hourly weather forecast for each hour we were at the park since it was supposed to rain all day–sometimes heavy–on Wednesday. As it turned out, we had a few sprinkles throughout the day, but that was it. No downpours at all, and no heavy rain. Nice going, weather.com. As it turned out though, I think the awful forecast helped us out a great deal. The park was pretty empty! It looked like most people cancelled the day or rescheduled it, probably expecting a lot of rain, so the park was very empty for us. There were no lines for nearly all the rides, and the few that did have lines were short with only a few minutes wait. We were able to ride several rides multiple times, and Kevin even went on several rides by himself, with no one else on them but him. Brianna–Beth’s daughter–even did the karoake studio thing and recorded her own single.

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Kevin even won a stuffed animal (Pirate Taz) from one of the games and he got a few other toys as well. We took a few pictures and even got a preview of some of the great Fright Fest sets that were already in place for their annual Halloween celebration. They were pretty cool. One demonic statue had blood contantly dripping from its tongue hanging out of its mouth!. And there was even a headstone for me and my sister Karen, side-by-side, and a Fright Fest hearse. All of the pictures are right here, so take a peek if you want.

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As expected, the dancing old man from the Six Flags commercials was plastered all over the park, and there was even a giant inflatable version of him just inside the park entrance to greet everyone coming in. And, of course, that wacky music that always accompanies his dancing could be heard over and over throughout the park, and during the morning opening of the park at the carousel all of the Looney Tunes characters danced to it as well. That silly song is still stuck in my head.

Ted Meimar 1930-2003

An old friend of mine, Ted, passed away last week after a long battle with cancer. I hadn’t seen him in some time, and when I last saw him in a grocery store a few months ago he didn’t seem to recognize me. Ted worked with my dad for many years at AMC (now Daimler-Chrysler) in Kenosha. My dad introduced me to him when I was very young, in my teenage years. In fact, Ted introduced me to my first computer and was a major catalyst in my eventually pursuing a career in computers.

Ted bought and sold early computers and software years before computers were a household name. When I learned of his death last week I spent a lot of time trying to recall that part of my past, and researched a lot of the historical details of the computers and software we dealt with back then. Remember, this was way before today’s PCs, when computers were in their infancy. We were into Atari computers. And due to how rare computers were, it was very difficult to find software & hardware peripherals for these computers. Ted and I joined an Atari Computer Users Group in Waukegan and attended all the meetings. It was the only place “somewhat local” where we could find to get things for our computers, so we spent a lot of time buying and trading hardware and software. Since I was just a kid, Ted bought mostly everything we wanted, and then resold the items I wanted to me over time, when I could come up with the money.

“Colleen” was her name. She was an Atari 800, built in 1979. Ted and I both had one. They hooked up to your television, so you could run it black and white or even color if you have a good TV. The processor speed was 1.79 MHz and it came standard with 8k of RAM, upgradeable to a whopping 48k. The color was amazing–16 colors with 8 shades each. For storage it used an external cassette recorder. You could upgrade to an external floppy disk drive if you could afford the several hundred dollars investment. Don’t take all of this as sarcasm. For it’s time, this really was an amazing system. The entire history of those early computers can be found here, so I won’t bother discussing them further, except to say that, for Ted and I, those were our days of discovery in computers, and we enjoyed them a great deal, and became good friends because of them. Ted was also an avid CB’er back in the day, and went by the handle “The Blue Goose.” If you’re from the Kenosha area and recall having a CB radio, perhaps you might remember him on the CB. I do. Other memories connected to this that just popped into my head are The Phantom of The Lake (another more mysterious CB’er), many Fox Hunts, “kickers” and HUGE CB antennas, “Utility Man” getting his coax cut repeatedly for using an kicker, gatherings at a place called Smokey Stovers, and huge Jerry Lewis Telethon CB’er get-togethers. I lost touch with Ted several years ago, after moving out of my father’s house, so my only memories of him were good. This is probably for the best. He’s in a better place now. And I’m hoping that where he is he has the fastest computer The Almighty can afford, and a CB that can transmit around the world and to the Heavens! He would like that.

Lost Peanut

Here’s a long story. It’s a true story, and we’ll say it ended a few hours ago… or at least the CHAPTER ended a few hours ago…Anyway, here goes. Saturday (11/2/02) we needed to take a run to Sam’s Club in Racine to pick up some groceries. My dad also wanted a few things, so we thought we’d pick them up for him, and because he has a new Chihuahua puppy (“Tiny”) we thought it would be nice to have him dog-sit for awhile so Peanut and Tiny could play together while we went shopping.

I called my dad and asked if he would watch Peanut and he agreed. We left Saturday afternoon after dropping Peanut off at my dad’s and went shopping. We got the usual bulk stuff, nothing special, then stopped at Best Buy for some CD-R discs. After that we headed home. It was close to 6:00pm, so we were anxious to get my dad’s, pick up Peanut, and go home and eat. When we pulled into my dad’s driveway at 6:00pm, we found him and my brother Clayton looking around the yard. They said Peanut had just snuck out “or something”. The kids were talking at the door, with the door wide open, and they assumed he got out, because he was nowhere in the house to be found. My dad said he was crying for me ever since we left (as he always does), and was only out of sight for a minute or two when he disappeared. No one saw him sneak out though, so we really had no idea whether he was stuck somewhere in the house, outside, or running home, or just running scared outdoors!

We searched the house, the yard, and a few blocks in every direction, but nothing. After several hours of searching we gave up exhausted and went home. My dad kept watch, and went out and looked around every so often. We were home a couple hours, everyone was very upset, crying, wondering if we should be mourning, still looking, or if maybe someone had walked off with him intending to keep him as their own. We know how special Chihuahuas are. They’re rare and expensive, and if someone found a nice one like Peanut they might just decide to keep him. He had tags–His rabies tag and ID tag which included his name, address, and phone number, so we had that going for us. After a few hours sitting around thinking I told Sandy I just couldn’t sit here when he could be out there somewhere freezing to death. It was a very cold night, and had to be below freezing. I went back to my dad’s and searched the neighborhood some more. Walking and searching in the cold, hundreds of possible scenarios went through my head. The worst of which was the fact that it was much too cold out for ANY dog to survive tonight in this freezing weather, let alone a PUPPY, and a Chihuahua for that matter! I searched a few more hours, until my feet were sore and hands numb from the cold. I went home depressed again, sure that there was no way he would be found alive after tonight IF he was out there somewhere.

I didn’t sleep much Saturday night, and I don’t think Sandy did either. I tried, but kept hearing Peanut’s whining or his tags jingling once in awhile and I’d jump up, check the front and back doors, and then try to go back to bed. I had left the back gate open, just in case. They say you never know…dog’s can find their way home even when it’s miles away. My dad lives only 9 blocks down the street, but for a Chihuahua it would have to seem like miles and miles, but I still harbored a glimmer of hope.

Sunday morning I searched again and turned up nothing. We had a birthday party for Jonathon Parr (he turned 4) at my sister Penny’s house that afternoon. My dad was there, and said a couple boys said they saw Peanut in the neighborhood just before my dad left for the party. My dad searched the area 1/2 block from his house where the kids said they saw him, but he turned up nothing. This new information gave us a little more hope, but we also knew that some kids can be cruel, or mistaken, or maybe they saw a cat or a different stray, it could have been a lot of things or even nothing at all. I couldn’t just let it go yet though, so after the party we drove around the neighborhood again and turned up nothing. We spent the evening at home again with everyone upset once again. The house just seems so empty without a dog in it now. Even when we got our first dog, Jayka, Carrie mentioned when she was first over to see him that our house seemed “so different” now that we had a dog. I now know what she meant. That evening I composed a classified ad for the Lost & Found section of the Kenosha News. I called them and they took the ad and said it’d have to start in Tuesday’s paper. I e-mailed them a photo as well, to run along with the ad. We sat around at home with everyone sad and depressed again, no one ate very well since the night before, and then it was time to take Matt home. Matt and I went, and Sandy stayed home to put Kevin down for the night. It was an incredibly quiet ride, for obvious reasons. About 5 times Matt broke the silence with the same sentence: “I sure hope we find Peanut.” I said nothing in reply. I didn’t know what was best to tell him–“Yes, he’ll turn up”, or “Don’t get your hopes up”, or “I don’t know”, so I said nothing. I was thinking about a classified ad I saw in the paper when I was looking for a sample in the Lost & Found section to layout my ad similarly. The ad was in the FOR SALE section. It was a litter of 3 Chihuahuas that was for sale. $300 each. About what we had figured, having priced them on the internet before and looked at prices when we were looking for a dog before we got Peanut. I was thinking if we had another dog it’d start the healing process and at least take the kids’ minds off of losing Peanut. My dad had said he felt responsible for losing our dog, and said he’d pay for us to get a new one. After dropping Matt off and thinking it over some more I called my dad on the way home. I asked if he meant it, and he said yes. I told him it’ll cost $300. He was shocked, and said he didn’t have that kind of money. I agreed. I thought about it some more and then asked if he’d pay half. He said sure, that’s fine.

I talked it over with Sandy when I got home and she agreed, maybe it’ll help. We knew it might be too soon to replace Peanut, but thought what the best (or “worst?”) outcome might be: We might end up with TWO Chihuahuas! I called immediately about the dogs in the paper. Two of the three were already sold. We knew they would go fast, it’s rare to even SEE Chihuahuas for sale, especially Chihuahua puppies. He said they had one male left. He’s in perfect health, was checked by a vet recently, and he’s a purebred. I took the digital camera, intending to take a few photos of him and bring them back to show Sandy. When I saw him though, I fell in love and knew Sandy would too. The other two Chihuahuas were still there, but were sold. He showed those to me, just so I could see the rest of the litter, and I swear that if all three were not sold I STILL would have chosen the one that was still for sale! The other two looked completely different! They were mostly white, with brown ears and a few other brown areas, and no black at all. They also looked almost exactly alike! I assumed later, but didn’t ask, that the same person had decided to take both of them and leave the “oddball” out. The “oddball” however, as I just mentioned, was much cuter and better-looking, in my opinion, than either of the other two! I feared if I left him without making a commitment he’d be sold before I came back for him, so I figured I’d better act now. I paid the $300 and took him home.

He’s mostly black, with white paws. It looks like he has socks on! That was my first reaction, and the reason we named him “Socks!” Afterward I thought that I should have taken a few photos of the other two dogs just to show off the “whole family”, since I had my digital camera with me anyway. But then again hindsight is 20/20, as they say, and of course I never thought about it at the time, and it’s too late now. Socks was introduced to our home and family last night, and is now getting used to his surroundings, his new bed, and the family. BUT WAIT! IT GETS BETTER! We had Socks home for a couple hours when the phone rang! It was my dad. He said “Jimmy! You dog was JUST HERE!” I said “WHAT?!?” He said “He was just on my porch! I went out to get him and he ran off again, across the street between the houses, and now I can’t find him again!” I said I’d be right there, and left in a hurry. I got there in a flash, and walked across the street to look. I saw him!! He was standing in the back of a long driveway right across the street. I called to him and he froze and barked at me. He started running toward me, got fairly close, then immediately looked surprised like he didn’t know who I was (it was pretty dark out), barked some more and darted away, running under a porch. I crawled under the porch, but he wasn’t there. He must have gone out the other side of the steps, which was open. I called and called, looking around for another two hours, very frustrated. It was like he vanished into thin air! I had heard his tags, so I knew he still had them, but after he ran I heard nothing any more. He couldn’t walk without jingling them, so after hearing nothing for so long my dad and I both figured he must have a warm place to sleep and he’s already curled up for the night. Reluctantly, I gave up again and went home without him. I wasn’t feeling so good, having been outside so much the last few days in the cold in only a sweater (I know, I’m an idiot–just can’t bring myself to dig out the winter coat and face the fact that winter is here). I had a bad cold now, head’s all stuffed up, and was so frustrated I had to give up looking yet another time! I did though, and again I left the gate open for him, just in case. Very little sleep again last night, thinking, wondering, and half-dreaming both good and bad scenarios.

I called in to work, intending on staying home to rest, but it bugged the heck out of me that he’s still out there somewhere. This morning was colder than the others, and there was a thick coat of ice on all of my car windows, I could tell just looking out the window. As the sun rose I thought about the kids in my dad’s neighborhood all walking to school, and that maybe Peanut would be rustled from wherever he’s sleeping and be walking around somewhere. I hopped in the car and drove to my dad’s again. I walked the neighborhood for about an hour, covering a block in each direction and Lincoln Park, on his corner. I was about to give up and I walked back to my dad’s house. I stood on his porch, worn out again, and losing hope one more time. I stood there, looking out off the porch and just yelled “PEANUT!” and heard a rustle in the leaves. I yelled it again, and again another rustle. I looked under my dad’s wheelchair ramp, where I had heard the noise. There, behind my dad’s backyard fence was Peanut!!! He was trying to get through, but the fence surrounds the yard and only opens on the opposite side at the car gate. Excited, I went around the house in the other direction calling for Peanut. He heard me the other way and ran around the house. I sat down in the driveway. He walked halfway to the driveway and stopped again, ready to change direction and run once more. I calmed him a little by talking to him, but when I moved in the slightest he became nervous and darted back where he was, around the back of the house, and back to the dead-end on the other side. He was in the perfect spot to catch though–it was only a path about 3 feet wide with only one exit–where I was standing. I walked toward him as he tried to claw through the fence somehow. I talked nice, and after a few minutes he seemed to give up and came to me slowly, as if giving up. I picked him up and petted him, and he seemed calm, and then switched to excited and started crying and whining in excitement. I took him into my dad’s house and he went for the food and water as expected. He was very excited, I imagine to be in a warm home again, and to be with family. I couldn’t wait to bring him home! He didn’t know it yet, but he now had a new brother to live with!! He’s home now, and he’s played most of the morning with Socks, and they get along just perfectly! Peanut’s showing him “the ropes” and Socks wants to follow Peanut everywhere, just like any little brother would. Right now they’re both passed out, Peanut on an afghan on the couch, Socks in the dog bed on the floor. Peanut is recharging from surviving in the wild for 2 ice cold days, but he looks perfectly healthy nonetheless. Socks is passed out from the workout Peanut just gave him, but he’ll be up and at him again in a little while, I’m sure. It’s been quite a weekend. We want to thank all of you who prayed with us for Peanut’s safe return, and those who offered to donate to the reward fund for his return. Thanks to your prayers and efforts he’s home safe and sound, and now we also have a new family member!